Wishorium

How do I stop grandparents buying the same present?

Give both sets of grandparents the same list and a way to say “we’re getting this one”. On a Wishorium wish book each wish can be circled once: Gran circles the scooter, and Nana, the aunties and everyone else see it’s taken before they shop. Here’s how to set it up, what to do for a gran without a smartphone, and what to say to her.

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Alfie’sBirthdayWish Book

Birthday · Wednesday 2 December

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Gifts kids want right now

For 3 to 10 year olds, from this year’s top toy lists and gift guides, checked 18 October 2026. Buy one now, or add it to a wish list so nobody buys it twice.

  • KPop Demon Hunters Rumi Singing Doll

    Mattel

    KPop Demon Hunters Rumi Singing Doll

    Rumi from the KPop Demon Hunters film, as a doll that sings.

    Ages 4+$31.98usual price

    Added to 14 Wishorium lists

    On 5 top lists

  • 3Doodler Start+ Essentials 3D Pen Set

    3Doodler

    3Doodler Start+ Essentials 3D Pen Set

    A pen that draws in plastic that sets into solid lines, sold as a starter set.

    Ages 6+$39.99usual price

    Added to 17 Wishorium lists

    On 3 top lists

  • Shashibo Shape Shifting Box

    Shashibo

    Shashibo Shape Shifting Box

    A magnetic folding cube that twists into many shapes, part puzzle and part fidget.

    Ages 6+$19.99usual price

    Added to 13 Wishorium lists

    On TODAY’s best gifts by age 2026

  • furReal Gabby the Grow & Roar Tiger

    furReal

    furReal Gabby the Grow & Roar Tiger

    An interactive tiger cub that roars and grows up as you look after it.

    Ages 4+$79.99usual price

    Added to 11 Wishorium lists

    On 3 top lists

  • Primal Hatch Megalodon

    Spin Master

    Primal Hatch Megalodon

    Put the egg in water and a roaring, light-up megalodon hatches out, again and again.

    Ages 5+$49.99usual price

    Added to 12 Wishorium lists

    On 6 top lists

  • ThinkFun Gravity Maze Marble Run

    ThinkFun

    ThinkFun Gravity Maze Marble Run

    A solo logic game: place towers so the marble rolls from start to target.

    Ages 8+$19.97usual price

    Added to 13 Wishorium lists

    On TODAY’s best gifts by age 2026

  • Scentco Smencils Scented Pencils

    Scentco

    Scentco Smencils Scented Pencils

    Scented HB pencils, in a five-pack.

    Ages 4+$8.99usual price

    Added to 11 Wishorium lists

    On 2 top lists

  • Educational Insights Kanoodle

    Educational Insights

    Educational Insights Kanoodle

    A pocket puzzle game: fit the coloured pieces into the tray to fill the board.

    Ages 7+$9.99usual price

    Added to 12 Wishorium lists

    On TODAY’s best gifts by age 2026

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Step by step

  1. 1

    Put every wish in one place

    Make one wish book with everything on it, from any shop or typed in by hand, with sizes and colours in a note on the wish. One list, not one version per relative.

  2. 2

    Send everyone the same link

    Post it in the family group chat, or send it on WhatsApp with one tap, so both sets of grandparents and the aunties look at the same list, kept up to date.

  3. 3

    Ask them to circle before they buy

    Each wish can be circled once. Whoever circles it first is getting it, and everyone else sees it’s taken and picks something else.

  4. 4

    Put on more than you need

    With more wishes than givers, at different prices, the last person to look still has a real choice.

  5. 5

    Look after the one who isn’t online

    Print the list for her, or order the wish book as a printed magazine, and circle her choice online for her when she tells you what she’s getting.

Why it keeps happening

Two of the same present come from lots of kind people shopping on their own. Gran had the list by text, the other grandparents were told something on the phone, and an auntie remembered what he liked last year. Nobody could see what anyone else had already bought.

How circling works

When Gran decides on the scooter she circles it and types her name: blue while she’s buying it, green once it’s bought. Everyone else sees it’s taken. If her plans change she takes her circle off and it’s free again. Nobody needs an account unless you ask for one, and you see who circled what, for the thank-yous.

  • Each wish circled once
  • Everyone else sees it’s taken
  • You see who, for the thank-you notes

Send it on WhatsApp, message written

The family group chat is the easiest place for it. From your list, tap “Send it to the family on WhatsApp” and the message is written for you: here’s the wish book, circle what you’re getting so nobody doubles up, with the link. You can copy the link or invite people by email instead.

For a gran without a smartphone

Anyone can print the list from a web browser, or you can order the wish book as a real printed magazine, posted to her door, with a number on every wish. She rings up and says which number she’d like, and whoever takes the call circles it online for her, so the rest of the family still see it’s taken. The printed copy is the list as it was on the day, so it can’t show circles made later.

What to say to Gran

Keep it warm and practical: “We’ve put Alfie’s list online so nobody ends up with two of the same thing. Have a look when you’ve a minute, and once you’ve picked something, circle it and put your name so the others know. No pressure to choose anything on it.” If she likes to go big, say which wishes are happy to be a shared present: a note on the wish tells everyone.

Questions from grown-ups

What if Gran and Nana both want to buy the same thing?

Whoever circles it first is getting it; the other sees it’s taken and picks something else. If they’d rather go in on something bigger together, one of them circles it and they sort the rest between themselves.

Do grandparents need an account to circle a present?

Only if you want them to. When you set up the list you choose: either anyone with the link can circle and just type their name, or they sign in with Google or an email address (and can add a photo).

What if Gran doesn’t use WhatsApp or email?

Print the list from a web browser, or order the wish book as a printed magazine posted to her door. The printed copy doesn’t update itself, so when she tells you what she’s getting, circle it online for her.

Can the grandchild see who’s buying what?

No. In child mode they can flick through and heart their favourites, but they never see names. You can even hide the circles completely. Switching back to parent mode needs your secret word, and we can email it to you if you forget.

Does it work for birthdays as well as Christmas?

Yes. A wish book is for a birthday, Christmas, a new baby, a christening or something else, and the family circle the same way whatever the occasion.

What if someone buys something that isn’t on the list?

That happens, and a surprise is still a surprise. The circles stop the doubles among the things on the list; if you hear that Grandad has already bought the scooter, take it off the list so nobody else does.

Is it free?

Yes. Some shop links are affiliate links, which pay us a small commission at no cost to you.

Ready when you are ✨

Free, five minutes to set up, and the family don’t need an app.